
Mary’s son Alec introduced a highlight of the occasion, explaining that what we were about to see illustrated the exact opposite of his mother’s parenting style: it was a TV commercial from either the 60’s or the early 70’s. in which a smiling, twinkling Mary served her wholesome family a trayful of desserts topped with Cool Whip. Mary was an elegant, wry, take-no-prisoners sort of person, so watching her emerge from a kitchen in hostess-y splendor was an unnerving treat. There were many other photos and film clips of Mary, documenting the emergence of her chic, fine-boned, confident personal style. Once Mary had established her sleek and witty persona, she never seemed to age, and she and her beloved husband, Hank Guettel, were the Nick and Nora Charles of Central Park West.
Another of Mary’s children, the superb composer Adam Guettel, assembled a chorus of major Broadway talent to sing Something Known, a gorgeous number from Mary’s musical version of the Carson McCullers novel, The Member of the Wedding.The memorial’s printed program included a trove of remembrances, and a flip book of Mary laughing what was referred to as her trademark, beguiling and dirty cackle. Mary was much beloved, as Broadway royalty, and as a woman who encouraged countless young artists.